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How to speak more confidently, based on research

Noah Zandan has some great research on 'speaking as a leader.'  https://www.quantifiedcommunications.com/resources/

Harvard Business Review: How to Stop Saying “Um,” “Ah,” and “You Know” 2018-Aug-1 by Noah Zandan

Finally, I can’t stress the importance of preparation enough. Nerves are one of the biggest reasons people overuse vocal fillers. The less prepared you are, the more nervous you’ll be, which will likely cause you to speak too quickly, trip over your words, and forget what’s next. So practice. On average, the optimal ratio of preparation to performance is one hour of practice for every minute of presentation, but at the very least, Dr. Trey Guinn, one of our communication experts, recommends speakers get in at least three full runs before stepping in front of an audience.

Used sparingly and effectively, filler words can make you more relatable to your audience, give you time to catch your breath, and emphasize key points. That’s why Google built fillers into the latest version of its AI assistant, Duplex. But when they become crutch words, used out of nervousness or lack of preparation, they hurt your credibility. As you prepare for your next presentation, identify the words you lean on most, and train yourself to avoid them. Then, next time you’re in front of an audience, use silence to gather your thoughts, rather than filling the air with sound.

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How to turn anxiety to good use... Bob Rosen interview in Fast Company.

Anxiety is a signal, not a sentence.

Fast Company: How to make your anxiety work for you instead of against you, 2018-Jul-17 by Stephanie Vozza

When you have too much anxiety, it’s often because you’re telling yourself a story. “For example, ‘If I don’t do a good job I’ll get fired,’ ‘My boss hates me,’ or ‘I’m going to embarrass myself,'” says [Bob] Rosen [Conscious]. It’s often not the event that causes anxiety; it’s the story we tell ourselves about it.”

When this happens, take a long walk or breathe deeply if you have too much anxiety. Meditation is a force that helps you live in the present moment. “When you meditate, you get a better sense of how your body and mind are reacting,” he says. “Deep breathing creates a direct connection between your breath and reducing stress. You can get a sense of the source of the anxiety, peel back the onion, and find the cause.”

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What do the groups you join ask of you? Beware of groups that focus on placing blame on other groups.

Thank you, thank you, Timothy Taylor, for introducing me to the work of John Tooby and Leda Cosmides. (Check out Coalitional Instincts and Fox News, or MSNBC.)

We are evolutionally programmed to join coalitions and those coalitions ask us to signal our loyalty to the group. Sometimes they ask us to do despicable things. 

Conversable Economist: How Coalitional Instincts Make Weird Groups and Stupid People, 2018-Jul by Timothy Taylor

...we all feel a strong need to join groups, we do have some degree of choice and agency over what groups we end up joining. Even within larger groups, like a certain religion or political party, there will be smaller groups with which one can have a primary affiliation. It may be wise to give an outlet to our coalitional nature by joining several different groups, or by pushing oneself to occasionally phase out one membership and join another.

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